50 ways….

Love….love is a fabulous thing. Well, most of the time. If there is one thing that I have learned about love and marriage is that it takes work. I personally do not believe in divorce – for me. I am married to the man that I will spend the rest of my life with and hopefully have a “notebook” ending. Yes, I am a hopeless romantic!! One of couples that has greatly influenced me has been my grandparents. Married for over 50 years and still in love. My pop pop  loves to push buttons and my mom-mom loves to criticize him for watching The Price is Right every day  but this is what makes them “them.” A few years ago, my mom-mom shared this list titled, “50 Ways to Keep To Keep A Man and Still Be Happy.” At the time I laughed at many of her points but I must admit that now they make sense. If only more couples would adopt this way to “survive” marriage, I think maybe more people would be happily married instead of just married.

  1. No longer me, me,me. It is WE!
  2. Everything should be 50/50
  3. Men are left brain. They have no clue what you want or need.
  4. What you see is what you get.
  5. You can’t change anyone. Only yourself.
  6. Must like everything – Snoring, dirty socks, leaving things around, etc. You get the whole package.
  7. Always look at the positive. Never negative
  8. Don’t be moody. The glass is always half full.
  9. Ask for what you want nicely.
  10. Always look your best. Hair, clothes, make-up…
  11. Don’t complain about aches, chores, work.
  12. Everything is your job. Cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, kids – If you get help, consider it a bonus.
  13. His job: trash, grass, cars, etc.
  14. Don’t ever take him for granted. He can walk out that door anytime – 10, 20, 30, 40 years later
  15. Communication about everything. Where we will live/work, when (or will) we have kids, where will we vacation, where will we spend holidays, and most importantly money.
  16. Money is the number one cause of divorce.
  17. Be a good listener. Always listen to what he has to say.
  18. Remember, you are not always right. Compromise.
  19. If he wants to go fishing or watch sports all day, don’t get mad. Find something to do or join him.
  20. Boys like toys and you are one of them.
  21. They like to be touched, kissed, hugged, hold hands, waited on, complimented.
  22. 24/7 sex, sex, SEX. That’s all they think about – except when eating. No matter what you say or what he says, it means sex. Remember, left brain.
  23. Don’t talk about his family or friends. They were there before you.
  24. Don’t ever, ever talk about an ex.
  25. Praise them for everything. They are like little boys. You are like their mother sometimes.
  26. Remember we all have faults.
  27. You cannot change anyones bad habits. Only they can.
  28. Don’t get stressed out over little things. Refuse to waste your energy – don’t sweat the small stuff. And it’s all small stuff!
  29. Getting angry doesn’t solve problems or make them go away.
  30. He’s not always wrong (clueless? maybe). You’re not always right, compromise.
  31. Don’t bitch, bitch, bitch. People don’t like to be put down.
  32. Give the benefit of doubt. There may be a reason. Don’t be judgmental.
  33. Don’t expect to be waited on all the time.
  34. Always help one another.
  35. Be best friends. Be willing to tell each other everything.
  36. A relationship doesn’t just happen. You must work at it 24/7
  37. There will be bumpy roads. Relationships must be strong to get through it.
  38. Nothing has a guarantee. We must take chances. Life is a journey.
  39. Everyday must be like the first day you met. Always get the way you did that first night.
  40. Have date night at least once a month.
  41. Count your blessings and make everyday count.
  42. Create your own life and then go out and live it.
  43. Be good. Be kind. Be considerate. Be thoughtful. Be loving. Be caring. Or spend the rest of your life lonely and alone.
  44. You have choices to make every day. Happiness is a decision. Choose it every day.
  45. Take time to enjoy every moment in every day.
  46. When you go to bed, always kiss and say I love you.
  47. Say I love you often.
  48. Every year should get better. When you’re old you need each other more and more.
  49. This worked 50 years ago, will work today, and will work 50 years from now.
  50. Make beautiful memories together.

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